Top Wedding Planning Tips from Real Brides

Top Wedding Planning Tips from Real Brides

When you’re planning a wedding, there’s a lot to think about. Whatever you’re planning, our fabulous newlyweds know exactly what you’re going through and they’re full of brilliant advice too. We’ve rounded up their top wedding planning tips for you right here and all this wonderful advice will get you through your wedding day in style.

Wedding planning tips

Let’s start with the build-up to the big day. There’s a lot to do and it’s important to stay on top of everything as you plan. Here are our favourite wedding planning tips from Upwaltham Barns real brides.

If you want to make planning easier and share the burden a little, lots of our couples recommend asking for help from friends and family:

The bride and groom pose for a wedding photo in the courtyard at this Sussex wedding venue

“Definitely don’t be afraid to ask for some help, although it can be hard to relinquish control, and I can’t believe I’m saying this now (lots of people said it to me!) but don’t sweat the small stuff too much. Care and put the effort in but no-one notices tiny things and it’s really not worth the stress.” Raye, Raye & Robin.

The newlyweds enjoy the gardens at this wedding venue in Sussex

“We had friends and family helping us with the planning of the wedding so that it didn’t stress us out or put too much pressure on us. We had help with the planning and the DIY so we’d always make a fun night of it and enjoy ourselves.” Angela, Angela & Sean.

However, sometimes it’s better to not involve everyone in everything, as real bride Laura explains:

“Try to avoid involving too many people when you’re planning your guest list. Do it alone and then discuss your choices with your family. We tried to involve people from the outset and came out with an initial list of almost 300!” Laura, Laura & Ravi.

Giving yourself plenty of time is also super important, especially if you want to get the wedding that you want:

The new husband and wife in the Sussex countryside surrounding Upwaltham Barns

“Don’t make rushed decisions. Some of the best things that we included were the third or fourth idea that came to us after initially thinking about something for weeks. Planning and taking your time is the best way to make sure that your day is exactly how you want it to be.” Kym, Kym & Alex.

The bride and groom outside the South Barn at Upwaltham Barns

“Start looking for your dress early. I had no idea that it can take several months for your dress to arrive if you’re ordering through a boutique. Also, use Pinterest! It’s an incredibly useful tool for finding and collecting ideas and remember that you can make your boards secret so no one realises how obsessed you are!” Emma, Emma & Bret.

Your wedding budget is a big part of your planning experience and our newlyweds have some fantastic advice for you:

The couple say I do in their wedding ceremony in the East Barn at Upwaltham Barns

“Go online to get the best deals possible. I would recommend trawling the internet for bargains and every time I found something I loved, I’d Google until I got the best possible price!” Lisa, Lisa & Mark.

The bride and groom enjoy the countryside that surrounds Upwaltham Barns in Sussex

“Keep a note of what you spend and add a contingency to your budget just in case. We included a 10% contingency and this worked really well.” Kirsty, Kirsty & Gary.

And finally, two tips that we most definitely agree with:

Brides enjoy their wedding ceremony at Upwaltham Barns in Sussex

“When it comes to ANYTHING about YOUR wedding, go with what you feel comfortable with. It’s your day and although politics and opinions can’t always be avoided, you should stick to what YOU want.” Hannah, Hannah & Lauren.

“Work with a venue that hosts weddings all the time – they’ll fill you with confidence before the day.” Jenny, Jenny & Luke.

Advice for the bride on the day

When your wedding day finally arrives, you’ll want to make the most of every minute. Our couples share their newlywed knowledge to make sure that your wedding day is all you dreamed it would be.

Firstly, and perhaps most importantly, don’t let the day pass you by. Take time throughout the day to appreciate the occasion:

Newlyweds enjoy the gardens at Upwaltham Barns wedding venue in Sussex

“My Dad reminded me to walk slowly down the aisle. I was so grateful as you forget how fast you walk and it really made us slow down and take it all in. It was like slo-mo and I got to see all our guests’ faces as we walked toward the altar.” Rachel, Rachel & Patrick.

At Upwaltham Barns in Sussex the bride and groom enjoy the surrounding countryside

“Take time for each other on the day itself. We tried to stick to each other’s sides until after the wedding breakfast.” Chloe, Chloe & Tom.

Husband and wife enjoy a moment after their ceremony at Upwaltham Barns in Sussex

“Remember to take some time out during the day to be alone with each other, even if it’s just for 10 minutes. It makes a huge difference.” Danielle, Danielle & Matthew.

A couple share their first dance in the South Barn at Upwaltham Barns

“During the day, stop and take everything in. We were told this by several people and are so glad we listened to their advice. We honestly feel we have better memories from the day because we kept purposely taking the time to soak up the whole occasion.” Kym, Kym & Alex.

Also, your wedding day is when you STOP planning. Don’t stress, don’t worry and make the most of every moment:

The brides enjoy the Sussex countryside that surrounds Upwaltham Barns wedding venue

“Don’t stress about anything too much! I know it’s your special day and you want everything to be perfect but when it comes down to it, all that matters is that you get married to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and that the people you love are there to support you.” Hannah, Hannah & Lauren.

Newlyweds enjoy their wedding ceremony in the East Barn at Upwaltham Barns in Sussex

“Don’t worry too much about timings on the day. I found myself checking whether we were running to time and I do wish I’ve just forgotten about time and left it to the team at Upwaltham to make sure everything happened when it was meant to – that’s what they’re there for and they were fantastic, always one step ahead!” Katy, Katy & Adam.

Lastly, this is your wedding day – you’re surrounded by everyone you love so whatever happens, it will be brilliant:

The couple enjoy a confetti moment in the courtyard at Upwaltham Barns in Sussex

“Ultimately, remember that when all of your favourite people are all together, looking amazing, with your favourite music playing and loads of booze and yummy food to enjoy, it WILL be the best day of your life, it really will. I promise!” Raye, Raye & Robin.

Why not take a look at more Upwaltham Barns real brides on our blog or make an appointment to come and visit us so that you can start planning your own wedding.


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